Deepak and the Super Quest
pathways June 4th, 2011
Mindfulness is key to mental health.
pathways May 19th, 2011
Lesson from the Vault
“A diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.”
If there’s one major lesson I’ve learned, it’s that I can’t always control what happens to me. However, if I can cultivate the awareness that I can choose how I want to respond, then I can create personal freedom.
It came as a complete revelation to me when I realized that it is not necessary to be held hostage by uncomfortable feelings. Instead, I can choose to step aside from them, and relate with compassion from a place of curiosity and warmth. But before that I need to be aware that the feeling is there. In other words, I cannot create meaningful change if I do not know what it is that needs to be changed.
Practice connecting with your own inner wisdom, because there is real freedom in this. Let inner wisdom be your beacon to letting things be what they really are, not what you may want or need them to be. We all have the power to be aware and to break free from the habitual ways of living that bind us to fear and self defeating knee-jerk reactions. I wholeheartedly believe this.
How do your emotions run your life? Does fear hold you back from engaging in things that could make you happy? Are there moments in your life where you shut down from communication because you feel overwhelmed or angry? Does shame keep you stuck in the same addictive cycles?
1. Recognize the feeling – You might even want to be on the lookout for it, calling it out when it’s there. Catch yourself in your negative self-talk. This immediately disengages you from the narrative network in your brain and gives the choice to step into the next step. Get curious about the feeling Give yourself the chance to do something different. Imagine that this feeling wasn’t good or bad, but just an arising sensation in your body. What is the texture of the feeling, the shape, and the size, does it have a color? In doing this, you’re training your mind that it doesn’t have to be so reactive to this feeling.
2. Wrap it in compassion and give it a loving hug – Imagine surrounding this feeling in a pool of warmth, a loving presence. Imagine this feeling is a wounded child and then see how you would relate.
3. You have a choice in how you relate to your feelings, choose this different response, and start to recognize that even though you can’t control what happens to you, you can control how you respond to it and this is how the path to freedom is paved.
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The disease of addiction is not its symptoms!
pathways May 17th, 2011
Once again, the symptoms of addiction are not the disease of addiction. By the time symptoms have reared their ugly heads, the pathogen of the disease has already taken root. Waiting until the obsessive behaviors, secrets and lies most associated with addiction take over the individual’s life, is too late in my opinion. Fundamentally, what is referred to as addiction is really the disease of fear. Its kissing cousins are the secrets and lies that smoke screen and manipulate the truth.
Shantideva, Einstein & Mindfulness
pathways May 11th, 2011
“All joy in this world comes from wanting others to be happy, and all suffering in this world comes from wanting only oneself to be happy.” -Shantideva (8th century Indian Scholar)
“A human being is part of the whole, called by us the Universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something separate from the rest—a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.” -Albert Einstein (New York Post, 1972)
from A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook
“Human beings are social animals, and the sweetness of relationships with others and the larger world—indeed, the universe—can nourish our lives. As you deepen your connections, you’ll find increasing delight in this interplay of giving and receiving. It may even become mysterious as to who is actually giving and who is receiving.
There are many things you can do to foster connection. Try sincerely asking a family member, friend, or anyone at all how he or she is doing, and listen deeply to what the other person says. Everyone loves to be heard and understood—to “feel felt.” Or practice random acts of kindness toward anyone, including strangers. You might volunteer to help a child, an elderly person, or anyone in need. You can offer time and energy to an organization that’s helping make the world a better place, or simply enjoy a pet, grow a garden, or pick up litter. Feel the sweetness of connecting with the world and its beings without wanting or expecting anything from them.”
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2011/02/the-key-to-happiness-and-unhappiness-shantideva-and-einstein/
